Today I figured out how to use the <video> tag to show a static thumbnail that gets replaced by the loaded video only when the user clicks play.
<video controls
width="400"
preload="none"
poster="https://ak.picdn.net/shutterstock/videos/172/thumb/1.jpg?ip=x480"
>
<source
src="https://ak.picdn.net/shutterstock/videos/172/preview/stock-footage-furnace-chimney.mp4"
type="video/mp4"
>
</video>
preload="none"causes the browser to not preload the video until the user hits playposter="..."provides an image thumbnail to show in the player when it first loads
More information: MDN guide to the Video element